Children and blessings

As I am sitting at home without my son and my husband fast asleep. I am so thankful for the ways that God shows me that he cares for me each and everyday. It is by the little things, and if we don't try to look for them we will miss it. I am so thankful that God shows me he loves me through my son, in the mornings, if he wakes up on his own, he walks into my husband and I bedroom smiling from ear to ear and jumps up and bed with me and gives me a hug. What a wonderful gift of child's love it so pure and innocent. If we could only love others especially our spouses and family members with that kind of devotion, no matter what we look like or what we have done so far your child loves you without question, and will do whatever they can to show that they do love you, and get your attention and affection in return. 

The things that breaks my heart, and use to up to recently make me angry:

If parents that flat out ignore there children, where there child has to particularly scream in there face just to get them to look at them. 

Or a parent that can't wait to be rid of there child for the day, and when there child comes home there mood goes to be instant sore. Because now the parent cannot focus on what seems to be most important to them, which is there self. 

It is very disheartening, when parents, force there children to go outside, and not even try to look for them unless it is time for them to go inside. 

Or the single parent, now I am not saying all parents are like this but this is the case for my neighbors on where I live at. The single parent will be outside and even play along with there child but as soon as there girlfriend/boyfriend arrives, their child becomes an after thought.

My only plea is if you have a child, play with them, interact with them. No matter how old they are they are all yearning for a parents love. A child desperately needs a father and mothers love. Children are God's little blessings, I cannot count how many times my son has brought me joy when the world gave me none. My son is such a little blessing. Now he is far from perfect, but we have to look past there imperfections and just see them as a whole being in this imperfect world. Just focus on the good and joyous things they have done for you.

God loves you for who you are and not for what you have or have not done! :)

Achievements

I will start this off with questions. Also this just my rambling thoughts so if there is any typos I apologize.

What do you do before you feel you have made an achievement? What goals do you strive for yourself to do day to day? Do you feel like you have a lack of self worth if you do not achieve said goals? Do you feel unsuccessful because of you are not making as much money as you would like?

I have recently had an awakening, why is it that I get so excited over the little things my son achieve but yet, I do not feel any accomplishment unless I finish something enormousness. So I put a challenge on myself to just get excited over every little thing I achieve for that day. I have to say, that my day felt much brighter and way less stressful. It is amazing to me how we get so caught up in what we are doing, or what we are not doing that we lose perspective. Yes, I would love to not have this certain debt that we have, yes I would love to own my own home, and have a vehicle that is 4 door, and have 2 of them in fact and would that both have working a/c's. 

We should look at every little thing we do as an accomplishment. From changing diapers, to paying the bills, or whatever you do. Every single thing that you do is an accomplishment. For you do not have to get up, you do not have go to work, you do not have to take care of your home, or raise your children or any other little thing. But we chose to do so, why because we love our family and our home, and we want them to grow, and want them to not have to take on our debt as well. So please try to not look at your checkbook, and feel so overwhelmed or unsuccessful. For money can not buy happiness, nor a family that will love and accept you for who you are, go out there be who you want to be. 

Lastly I have to say that I am sure in the past I have been my far share of a nay-saying.  Now I am trying to be the opposite, I am trying to encourage others, whether they want to even speak to me or not. I am trying to be the best I can be and be the person I want to be rather than trying to either force others to be the way I want them to be or trying to be whom I think they want me to be. (note: I have done both neither will work in your favor) To those of you out there that do read this go and try to strive to be an encourager, rather than hindrance to others. 

May you see the blessed in all that you do.

Testings to Delays to Development

For those that do not know this my son has a speech delay, a major one at that.  My husband and I suspected for sometime, but finally decided to talk to my son's doctor about that, when he was about 15 months old. She advised us to go get his tested through developmental program through our local health system. After he was tested they suggested we go through a program that is for toddlers to age 3, which was Help Me Grow. He had to get tested again before he got into there program. I learned some helpful skills for my child, and if we ever have another child to help along with there speech. Now I know everyone child is different but they teach you do the activities they love to do already along with them and just add words in that appropriate with what they are doing. Now it does seem like an obvious thing but once you have a child whom is having problems, sometimes your mind seems to shut off, at least my case it did, and only focused on his problem rather than a solution and a way to help him grow. Now I see him as special child that he is, and see that his delay is not a hindrance but a blessing, in many many ways, but I will get into that at another time.

I have also learned that the way to help children really grow is to have them around other children often, at least once a week if not once a day if it is all possible. Time flew by more and more development, granted it was very slow, because at the time my son did not have that many children in our neighborhood that would play with him, nor at our church in nursery, there is not that many children that attend regularly. Time flew by more and he was almost three, it was time for him to get tested for our local school preschool programs to see if he still need extra help. Will he got into there program to help his speech, during the school year he would be seen by a speech specialist, it is only for around 10 minutes at most a week. We as a parent are the ones that are to be there mentors and teachers. Our children do watch our every move and every word. There are some words and phrases I wish I could take back around my child, for I do slip up from time to time. But I try to everyday spend time with him playing a certain activity trying to get him to repeat with words what we are doing. It is a slow and grueling process at times. But it is worth it. I have to say though once my son was in preschool, his speech flared, and his potty training did as well. Now that it is still summer, he is still growing and learning more. He talks much much more, and I can understand a lot more of his words, and others can start to actually understand his speech as well. Which is a major goal, I want him to be able to play with others without me having to tell them what he is trying to say. I hope everyone does not misunderstand I am not ashamed by him I am thankful for him, and all his faults. It has helped open up a new understanding to those with various delays, and maybe one day help those in my similar situations. 

My challenge is to those out there with children that have various delays, seek out programs out there that are for children with those delays, and seek out other parents that are going through your similar situations, so they can help give ideas, on what they have done, and what programs they have done. There are many programs out there that will help you with payments, where you will have to pay little to nothing depending on your income in most cases. Also try to do an activity a day that your children love, and something whatever they are have a delay in. You will begin to see an improvement. It may be slow at first but they will grow and get better. 

Lastly I believe that children can only develop if you first give an interest and pursue it. I hope that what I have said helps you, and helps inspire you. Help you see your children regardless of the situation, and/or delay they are special, and they are amazing and unique.

Hold onto your children, for they are vessels, of your love, of blessings, and show you how to love unconditionally.